What helps us to heal and recover a sense of self following a neurodivergent discovery?
This article will provide you with the resources to discover your answers
Dear neurokin,
In choosing this month’s topic of Healing; from late life neurodivergent discovery - recovering a new sense of self, I failed to consider the very difficult barrier there would be for me in writing about healing.
I hadn’t considered how tricky it would be for me to write about this topic whilst witnessing suffering.
We’re all witnessing unbearable suffering of other humans in our world.
For me, living alongside someone with a chronic health condition is a bit heartbreaking; I wish it wasn’t so. I
had to write about this at the very start of the month before I create space for learning in this topic.
In the end I decided I wouldn’t publish the article. Whilst I live alongside it, it’s not my story to tell.
The article ended:
As I type the end of this article I do not know if it will ever be published.
As I grapple to heal from my late life neurodivergent discovery, as I struggle to show up in this world with a stronger and more confident sense of myself, feeling safe to be me, its hard to know if you want this much honesty.
I know that we humans are so desperate to turn away from the suffering of others that we have built a world full of distractions.
Once I’d written down the difficulty and pain, it took me to some interesting and unexpected places in my own learning.
I hope it has done the same for you in your learning and growth about your own healing.
What we’ve been exploring and learning in the topic of Healing for Belong…we are neurokin
EXPLORE in this month’s article I highlighted three positive and hopeful responses to cruel stigmatisation and inaccuracy about the benefits we receive because we’re autistic!
LEARN we had such an insightful session in making space to heal with this months’s neurokin practitioner Laine Redpath from The Good Body Space.
Laine helps us to:
identify your pain parts - what triggered you to activate your own internal alarm system?
create detachment and space to notice your pain, anxiety, fatigue with curiosity
“Let go of the need to find out or focus on what’s wrong…”
how to create your own agency.
building a relationship with yourself
not seek external answers or validation
you’re in charge of how you show up
“maybe I am safe now…”
You can watch the LEARN session here:
What will help you to heal and recover a new sense of self?
Here are five things that will help you
It all starts with letting go of never ending endings!
For once we’ve let go, other memories or understanding surfaces for us to explore.
Grieving the old; stories, beliefs and desire to fit in.
A lot of our healing and acceptance of our difference - our neurodivergence - comes from letting go of:
stories and expectations you’ve been carrying around
letting go of limiting beliefs
images of yourself
the person you were before you knew you are neurodivergent
who you should be
had to be to survive
wanted so desperately to be, but you really aren’t - that’s a really tricky one to acknowledge and let go of.
